Dear Dr. Ra: I’ve been dating this guy for about a month now. We talk for hours, which is good because we are having a lot of conversation, but we also disagree and argue a lot. I am thinking we might not be able to get along. I also do not know where he lives yet and I don’t want to invite myself to his house because I have decided to not be the aggressor, like I have done it the past, because it has not gotten me anywhere. I was thinking about not continuing to date him. Not Sure What to do.
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Dear Not sure: You have only been dating for a month. The fact that you are having a lot of conversations seems to indicate that you clearly enjoy talking to each other and have a lot to talk about which can be good. However, when you talk a lot there are going to be areas that you will not agree on. It is just how you disagree. Respecting each other’s perspectives and opinions on things is helps to avoid arguing. If you have been dating for a month and you do not know anything about where he lives, is suspicious. But there could be a number of reasons he is not sharing that information. He could be embarrassed about his living situation, is in transition, living with someone or may even be married, etc. I would say take your time, as time will tell.