Dear Dr. Ra:
I lost my only son years when he was in his 20s to a battle with HIV-AIDS. I still feel like he is still with me. I keep his memory alive and celebrate his life every year by putting an ad in the newspaper on his birthday. He has been gone for over 20 years, and I still do not know how to respond when people ask me if I have children or how many children I have. I am not even sure if I still to be considered to be a mother. Am I still mother?
Not Sure If I Am Still a Mother
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Dear Not Sure Mother:
I am so sorry to hear that you loss your only son. You are still a mother. You had a child and he was in your life for over 20 years. When people ask you whether you have children, you can say, yes, I had a beautiful son (or however you describe him) but he passed how ever many years ago it was.